Diverse online dating

EHarmony asks users to fill out extensive psychological questionnaires, many based on established personality scales.Ok Cupid asks quirkier questions (e.g., “wouldn’t it be fun to chuck it all and live on a sailboat? The idea that we can use reliable tests to identify appropriate partners is certainly seductive (forgive the pun).

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While having more choices statistically increases the likelihood of identifying desirable partners, it bears noting that having too much choice can negatively affect daters’ mentality.

Interview-based research has identified a “kid in a candy store” phenomenon, whereby some online daters report that they are less likely to commit to a relationship and work through hurdles when they know there are always other options easily available. It is possible that some daters do find better matches when they have larger pools of partners, whereas others fall prey to the allure of always looking for someone better.

The guy needs to assess the situation, weigh his odds, approach her and if not immediately rebuffed, he needs to impress her, entertain her and spend money on her.

Then after all that, he may find out she wants someone taller, makes more money, etc.

That is, individuals typically encounter relatively small numbers of potential partners from whom they can choose.

Further, the diversity of these partners is limited, with, say, teachers meeting other teachers, students from a small town meeting others just like them, etc.

3) Individual differences: age, motivation, and socio-economic status.

It is possible that online daters, as a group, are different from the general population in ways that increase their likelihood of establishing successful romantic relationships. First, online daters tend to be older, with most being in their 30’s, 40’s, and beyond.

This issue is compounded for those looking for love later in life, when their social circles tend to be made predominantly of other couples.

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