Dating two friends at the same time

(See Deborah Taj Anapol's great post on polyamory here.) But why?One could argue that by its very nature, loving somebody includes promising your affection exclusively, so the other person can reciprocate with confidence.This is tough—how often do we find true love in the first place?

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He is going through a divorce and I have always been attracted to him and we have done things in the past.

But now that he is free of the marriage bond he meets some 19 year old girl online and moves her 2 hours from her hometown.

It seems to me that a person can love two people only if those two people don't know about each other! yes its difficult but so is a monogamous relationship Well I am a gay man in love with a bisexual man who happens to supposedly equally love me and a woman.

To me that's the proof that cheating is wrong - it requires deceit. i myself have a relationship with two people who are as committed to me as they are to each other. The problem I have is that I am coming out of a 9 year relationship with my current partner whom I still live with and so does my new lover and his girlfriend.

Once everyone involved has the same information....well, can the situation persist openly? I have no intimate feelings towards my former lover, but I am madly in love with this "bisexual" man who still wants to be with his girlfriend too.

The other issue I have is that she is half his age and I am closer in age to this new love of mine and I have been his friend for 10 years.

But this assumes that both persons desire monogamy, which begs the question; naturally, monogamy-oriented people will desire monogamous relationships, but this doesn't explain the desire for monogamy itself!

Of course, desiring a mongamous relationship doesn't need justification, but neither does a desire for any other type of relationship (including not being in a relationship at all, as Bella De Paulo emphasizes on her Living Single blog).

Of course it's ideal if you can leave the current relationship for a shot at a new one, but it's not always that easy.

Sometimes you can't leave, or other times you don't Another thought provoking post!

But nonetheless, you may start to wonder: is this the best thing for this person I love?

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